I had class tonight and it really upset me. So, this is my thought about the discussion.
I KNOW that there is racism, sexism, and all sorts of –isms.I also know that when someone does something to upset me that there is a big chance that their motivation is based on one of these –isms.However, I feel like, for myself, that it is a waste of my energy to dig into the motivation of these people.Which –ism am I to confront?What if the motivation is purely that they like to be jerks.
I am not saying that these aren’t issues that need to be confronted.I have many conversations with people that disagree with me.I am not afraid to talk about any topic that is typically considered taboo. I discuss politics, religion, race, etc. with people who have drastically different beliefs than I do.
I know that we are all different and embrace it, without having to know EXACTLY where each and every person’s motivation lies.I also, know that “evil” exist in the world, without having to know EXACTLY where each and every person’s motivations lie.
What I plan to teach my children is this-There are negative people in the world.These are some of the major reasons that these people are this way: racisms, sexism, ageism, etc.You name it and I bet there is someone out there with something against it.Don’t live your life under the thumb of what these people think of you.Make changes where you can, talk to people when you can.Share your opinion.But never dwell on the many, many reason that someone could choose not accept you.
Especial being that our children will be biracial with a large variety of cousins (White, Black, Jewish, Mexican, Honduran, and a variety of mixtures of theses) ,I want them to stand up for all people… not necessarily specifically the ones that represent our family.You don’t need a catalog of who gets what privilege or what the all the racial slurs are, or why a certain group is slandered to know right from wrong. You also don’t need this to stand up for what is right.
As a lot of you know, Thomas was laid off in November. So, Christmas was very tight for us. We made a joint decision not to participate this year in the Holiday Assistance Program. We hope that next year will be a better year. We just realize that you can’t help others if you can’t help yourself first.
It has been a long time but I am back with more things to contemplate!
Watching Oprah’s Best Life Web cast, a mother asked how to give her children a spirituality that empowers them. This had me think about how children have been taught, and how I want to teach my children, about spirituality. The web cast uses the term spiritual journey, a lot. So stick with that term, I do not want to rob my children of a great spiritual journey.
By no fault of my parents, I felt disconnected from the organized religions. As I got older I began feeling guilty for not feeling that I could release myself into church and Christianity. It has been in the past few years that I have found Buddhism. Buddhism has set me free. I now understand that it is ok not to know. That accepting life as it is and learning from every experience is how I bring about my spiritual awakening. I attempt every day to have a Buddha nature about myself. I am on a spiritual journey.
By no means is it easy. I have to struggle to learn from those who anger me and think past their actions to see where these actions come from. Accepting difficult situations for what they are, temporary necessary points of life, is probably the hardest for me. But I know that it makes me a better person.
I hope that I can lead my children through their journeys without restricting their direction. I know this will be a challenge. However, I believe it is the most important job as a parent to guide our children through life and to be careful not hand them a predetermined life. Handing them their beliefs robs them of truly understand who they are and restricts them from engaging in their journey to what their hearts tell them is the right way.
I will be updating the original post with my 101 things to accomplish. I just think it is better to keep them together. I am now through 50. Thomas is making fun of how long it is taking me. I will try to move faster. I will blog every time I update the original.Day Zero: 101 Tasks in 1001 Days
So I am starting something new, well new to me.Thomas and I came across this website that is dedicated to having people complete 101 things in 1001 days.So I will be creating my lists here.It will take a while.My day zero will be the first Monday after I post my 101 task.Tasks do not have to be done in any particular order.
So, apparently the karma that comes with being married is good. Every other time in my life that I have had to go to the social security office, or secretary of state, has been a full day nightmare. Long lines, rude people, and frustration.
Today, I took Kylie and Jenna with me to the two offices. Including driving between the two offices, it only took approximately 1 hour and 15 minutes, total. That is usually how long it takes for my number to be called at one of them! Not only that but the girls were awesome. We took the back packs with crayons and stuff and they literally did not make a peep.
They were actually upset when we left the S.S office because they didn’t finish their pictures!! Then got excited when I said they would have plenty of time at the drivers license place.
How did I get so lucky?
So, now it is official. TianaShevonKubik.
Bonus is that I don’t have to go to these places on Saturday, which would have probably lead to a very different post all together.
Wedding notes will continue this weekend….still so much more to say!!
